Telling Another To “Lighten Up”
Telling another to “lighten up” or be more positive can be shame-inducing, however nicely we might do it.
What if they need to stay with their hate or despair or depressiveness for a while? How can we be sure that they’d be better off getting away from such states as soon as possible?
Perhaps at such times we are — through our contact with their endarkened condition — starting to feel more in touch with such states in ourselves, and want the other to get away from their “darkness” so that we don’t have to feel our own.
Pressuring ourselves to be positive only increases our negativity toward our negativity.