Meeting Your Edge

If you’re not afraid, it’s not your edge. If you’re not resistant, it’s not your edge. If you can coast through it, it’s not your edge. If you’re not feeling raw, it’s not your edge. If you’re trying to fit yourself into a cognitive framework, it’s not your edge. If you think you’ve got it figured out, it’s not your …

A Different Kind of Intimacy

Along a colorfully crowded sidewalk I walk, slowly. I feel both right here and all over the place. There’s a very subtle pleasure suffusing each step, starting in the center of my soles, spreading through my feet and up through my torso. I have a growing sense that there’s nowhere in particular to go, no one in particular to be, …

Spiritual Bypassing

Avoidance In Holy Drag Spiritual bypassing is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs. It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes. Part of the reason for this is that …

Divine Dynamite

A Caveat Regarding Spiritual Opening           When the night pulled back the bedcovers           And I sat knees-up ashaking           Seeking a sign sublime           My mind looking for the time          My body athrob with an eternal rhyme     …

THE EVOLUTION OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Intimate relationship has over the last four or five decades evolved so far from its long-established ways that its very nature and structuring — once a largely unquestioned given — is clearly up for some deep questioning and reformulating. Reformulating, revisioning, restructuring, reinventing — how we tend to look at intimate relationship is changing almost as rapidly as intimate relationship …