Safety In Intimate Relationship

To go truly deep in an intimate relationship, we need to feel safe with our partner. We need to know — and know with our whole being — that we can trust them, and not just when we are physically with them. This trust is based not on thinking that we should trust them, but rather on consistently sensing in …

Eros Undressed

Freeing Our Sexuality from the Obligation to Make Us Feel Better or More Secure The passion of the deepest sex primarily arises not from erotic excitation and stimulation but from the presence of an intimacy rooted in deep trust, transparency, love, and emotional rawness, an intimacy that’s the most potent of aphrodisiacs. Sex is, in many ways, still in the dark. …

THE EVOLUTION OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Intimate relationship has over the last four or five decades evolved so far from its long-established ways that its very nature and structuring — once a largely unquestioned given — is clearly up for some deep questioning and reformulating. Reformulating, revisioning, restructuring, reinventing — how we tend to look at intimate relationship is changing almost as rapidly as intimate relationship …

Boundaries Make Freedom Possible

Boundaries are an essential part of life. They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the integrity of what they are safeguarding, be that physical, psychological, emotional, social, or spiritual. Without them there is no relationship and therefore no development, no evolution. But despite this clear truth, we often …