Misogyny: As American As Apple Pie, But Now…

Thanks to the Ford-Kavanaugh hearing, the MeToo movement is morphing into a tsunami, as it must in order to have its needed impact. More than silences must be broken; the edifices of male denial, entitlement, and aggression must be leveled. This asks not for reasonableness or calmness, nor for violence, but for a fully alive anger from the heart as …

Meeting Your Edge

If you’re not afraid, it’s not your edge. If you’re not resistant, it’s not your edge. If you can coast through it, it’s not your edge. If you’re not feeling raw, it’s not your edge. If you’re trying to fit yourself into a cognitive framework, it’s not your edge. If you think you’ve got it figured out, it’s not your …

Signs That Your Shadow is Present

Once we realize that we, like everyone else, have a shadow, and don’t take this as some sort of shortcoming, we are in a position to do more with our shadow than just thinking about it. So where to start? Begin by identifying the signs indicating that your shadow is showing up. This means bringing a penetrating eye to your …

Poetry and Me

Poetry took hold of me when I was 8, stirring me with its magical blending of meaning and rhythm. I didn’t even know it was poetry, didn’t name it thus, didn’t get self-conscious about it despite my unrelenting shyness. It was but wordplay, the verbal face of my love of art and bare creativity. By Grade 3, I was busily …

Spiritual Bypassing

Avoidance In Holy Drag Spiritual bypassing is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs. It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes. Part of the reason for this is that …

Divine Dynamite

A Caveat Regarding Spiritual Opening           When the night pulled back the bedcovers           And I sat knees-up ashaking           Seeking a sign sublime           My mind looking for the time          My body athrob with an eternal rhyme     …

Eros Undressed

Freeing Our Sexuality from the Obligation to Make Us Feel Better or More Secure The passion of the deepest sex primarily arises not from erotic excitation and stimulation but from the presence of an intimacy rooted in deep trust, transparency, love, and emotional rawness, an intimacy that’s the most potent of aphrodisiacs. Sex is, in many ways, still in the dark. …

THE EVOLUTION OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Intimate relationship has over the last four or five decades evolved so far from its long-established ways that its very nature and structuring — once a largely unquestioned given — is clearly up for some deep questioning and reformulating. Reformulating, revisioning, restructuring, reinventing — how we tend to look at intimate relationship is changing almost as rapidly as intimate relationship …

Boundaries Make Freedom Possible

Boundaries are an essential part of life. They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the integrity of what they are safeguarding, be that physical, psychological, emotional, social, or spiritual. Without them there is no relationship and therefore no development, no evolution. But despite this clear truth, we often …